A Day in their Shoes

As mama’s we often feel like we are not doing enough. At the end of the day, as we are rocking our little one’s to sleep, we stare into they eyes and think,

I wish that I did more today. I should have read more books or got down and played more with him and his cars. I should have taken him outside to play a little longer and not cared if he got dirty.

I should have done more!

I feel like a horrible mother because I could’ve done more, but I. Did. Not.

As I rock my little one to sleep, these thoughts constantly play in my head. I begin to tear up because I feel like I don’t do enough.

But then I am just overwhelmed as I watch how at peace he is as he drifts off to sleep and I often wonder what it is that he is thinking in those moments.

I wonder, if I could spend a day in his shoes, how he would view me as a mother. Would he feel like I didn’t do enough either?

So mama, if you are feeling discouraged because you feel like you don’t do enough, please continue reading this letter:

*I was gifted these Freshly Picked Moccasins, but all thoughts and opinions are 100% my own.

Dear Mama,
I’m sorry that I woke up early again this morning and quickly began crying out to you. I just woke up and I really miss you. I want you to come in quickly and scoop me up from my crib and give me a huge hug and tell me good morning. I want to sit and cuddle with you like we do every morning.

I’m sorry for whining for your attention while you are trying to make me a yummy breakfast. I am really curious to see what you are doing. I love when you pick me up and tell me what you are making for breakfast.

I love when you stop what you are doing and you put on music and have a dance party with me.

I love when you read to me before naptime, even if it is only one book.

I’m sorry that I get upset and cry when it’s naptime, I just am afraid that I will miss out on anything fun that you might do when I’m sleeping. I love spending our days together and stopping to nap means I’ll miss out on something, so that is why I cry.

But I do love that you stop what you are doing and rock me before my nap. I love to just lay my head on your shoulder and relax from my busy morning.

Thank you, mama, for coming quickly to get me out of bed when I wake up from my nap! I love our sleepy after naptime cuddles right before you make me a snack.

I know you are trying to work on stuff, mama, but I love when you stop because I am showing you my favorite car. Thank you for stopping and pushing it around the living room and making me giggle, even if it was only for a little while.

Thank you for taking me outside for a walk! I love when you tell me about all the exciting things that are outside. Thank you for pointing out that bird that I could hear but couldn't find. Thank you for letting me run around and play in the dirt.

Mama, I get really sleepy in the evenings. I know that might be frustrating to you because you are trying to make me dinner, but please just hold me for a little. I am tied and I just want to cuddle. Thank you for making me such yummy food to eat!

Thank you for making sure I stay clean! I love bath time because you always sit and play with me. I love when you make my rubber ducky quack and float around. Thank you for not getting upset when I get a little too excited and splash water all over the bathroom floor.

Thank you, mama, for rocking me to sleep each night. I don’t know what you are thinking, mama, as you look at me with a sad but loving look every night. But I wanted to let you know that you are such an amazing mama. I had so much fun today with all the fun things we did together! I loved reading that book with you and that you pushed my cars around with me for a little while. I loved going for our walk and running around outside for a little bit. I just love exploring with you, mama, even if it is only for a short amount of time. 

I had so much fun today, mama! I always have so much fun. You are doing a great job, mama! Do you know that? You are the Best. Mama. Ever!

I’m getting sleepy now. But I love that the last thing I see every night, is your smile as you rock me to sleep. I assume the little tear I see slipping down your cheek is because you are so happy that I am yours. I feel the same way, mama.

I love you!


Your little one

Don't be so hard on yourself, mama. Your little ones just need you to be there and to love them.

*Moccasins: Freshly Picked


  1. *such* sweet words! and of course the cutest little moccasins ever! <3

  2. well this made me tear up. A good reminder to step back and look at life through your childs eyes.

  3. Thank you! Yes, I try to remind myself often of this, especially when I am stressed out because he needs me so often.

  4. Thank you! Yes, we love them!

  5. This is the absolute sweetest letter! And such a great reminder to us to slow down and savor the sweet moments because we will miss them soon!

  6. Oh my goodness. I needed this so much. Sometimes looking at their behavior from their perspective makes it so much less frustrating. This is a great reminder to slow down and really think about what it is that they're needing.

  7. I'm so glad this was helpful! Yes, that's exactly why I wrote this :)

  8. I am obsessed with this!!! I love it so much - I love the new perspective that you were able to share, we often don't think of it this way. I honestly feel like this is going to help my patience levels so so much. Thank you for sharing!

    <3 Kayla

  9. Thank you Kayla! I am so glad that it helped you!!

  10. Loved this. I struggle with feeling like I failed my toddler after I didn't read her that one more book or sit on the floor and build blocks with her. I hope she feels those things when I cuddle her and tell her I love her. I do it all the time. Rather than getting irritated at my little one for complaining while I make breakfast, I'm going to pick her up and include her in the process, because, like you pointed out, she probably feels like she's missing out on something great. I need to be reminded to stop and imagine things from her perspective. Doing so will make me a better parent to all of my children.

  11. Thank you for reading, Jen! I love that you plan to try to see things from her point of view. That helps me so much!

  12. Ah this is so sweet. I am reading this before I put my kids to bed and I am thinking, I should have done more today!! :)