Being Present in a Season of Busyness

The holiday season is upon us! You probably have a never-ending list of things you hope to accomplish or experience before the New Year. I know for me that the holidays can be pretty busy. I have a list of things that need to be done in time for Christmas. It might just be the perfectionist in me, but I have a mental list going of things that I need to do in order to have the “perfect” Christmas. Lately, I have found myself finding activities (or kids show) for my little one to do in order to keep him busy while I do something on that list.

Then one day as I was working on one of those things on my list, I suddenly had a thought that stopped me in my tracks!

I am so blessed to be able to stay home with my son! There was nothing more that I wanted when I found out I was pregnant. I wanted to be there for all his milestones, to watch him grow, and to be able to be the one to teach him.

I do not want to waste this time with busyness.

I immediately stopped what I was doing and grabbed a stack of books and sat down with my son and read him some of the Christmas books we picked up from the local library. We spent the rest of the afternoon reading, laughing, snacking, and pointing at the decorations and lights on the Christmas tree.

It can be so easy to get caught up in the busyness of the holiday season (or even just life in general!)

Yes, there are still a million things on my to-do list. I still do my best to keep up with a lot of it, but I don’t want to go through my life and realize that all I accomplished was marking things off my to-do list. I don’t want my son to grow up and remember me as always being busy. Babies grow up so quickly, you guys! They DO NOT stay little for long. I don’t want to look up from what I’m doing one day and realize that my son has grown up and I completely missed it!

What about you? Are you so busy that life is passing you by and all you can say you did was cross things off your list? When was the last time you were just present?

Don’t know where to start?

Here are a few tips to being present.

  1. Learn to say “NO!” – You have to learn to say no to some things. It can be difficult, I know. I have trouble saying no to things. I feel like I should be able to do all the things! But if I am doing all the things, then I do not have time for those who are most important to me.

  1. Learn to Let Go – You have to learn to let some things go. I struggle with this when it comes to my house. I feel like I have to be constantly cleaning. I don’t even live in that huge of a house. I am learning to just let go occasionally. The dishes don’t ALWAYS need to be washed right after we eat. Sometimes that is the best time to just sit in the living room and play with my son. You need to learn that some things can just wait because your child is not going to wait to grow up.

  1. Learn to Clear your Mind of the Busyness – I have just recently discovered the process of “brain dumping”. Basically you take all those thoughts you have in your mind and get them OUT!

  • To do this, you will need a paper (or two), a pen, and a timer. I started with 5 minutes because I did not think that I would be able to sit and write for that long (I ended up taking about 10 minutes).

  • Set your timer and just start writing. Write anything and everything that comes to mind. Don’t stop writing until the timer stops. You will probably be surprised at how many things you have taking up space in your mind.

  • I try to make this a daily habit. It really allows me to clear my mind so I can really be present and not just sitting there thinking about all the things in my mind.

I hope these tips will help you to not get caught up in the busyness of the holiday season, but to be able to actually be present and enjoy the season with your loved one. If you have any questions, please do not hesitate to write them in the comments or even send me an email! I hope you have a Merry Christmas!


  1. I absolutely love this post, it's right up my ally, thank you!

  2. <3 What a beautiful reminder! I do want to do my best to be present with my son - this season and all seasons!!!

  3. These are such perfect recommendations. Love them all and certainly reminding myself to do so! <3

  4. I think being present is even more difficult to do during the holidays because it just feels like there is so much that needs to be done! But I totally agree that our kids grow up so fast and if we don't take the time to be present with them, we will miss the most important things.

  5. Great advice! I also feel as though I am always cleaning my home.. sometimes its easy to forget that a clean house is not as important as living in the moment with your children.

  6. Hey Shelia!
    I have been so caught up in the business of the season recently. I really need to learn to let go. Thank you for sharing this beautiful reminder of being present in this wonderful season! <3

  7. Such great reminders! I love this time of the year, but it does seem to fly by, especially when you overcommit yourself.

  8. It does! I've found slowing down to be my favorite part of this time of year :)

  9. I'm so glad that this helped!

  10. Yes! This is a constant struggle for me.

  11. Excellent advice! I'm all about Stress free Holidays. being present is truly the best Christmas present!

  12. I absolutely love this! I feel like we could be BFFs. 😂😂 I have been struggling with not constantly cleaning lately. Today she asked me what the words on her word wall said while I was washing dishes. I fought the urge to say "let me finish this". With suds on my hands I went over and helped her read them. I wanted to be a stay at home mom for her benefit, not to make sure my house is impeccable. So I need to put her benefit first.

  13. Good tips! I hope you have a happy holiday season! Thanks for sharing your tips at Motivation Monday on Mom Home Guide.

  14. Learning to say "no" is a real issue with me. I have this sense of obligation that I have to do it.

    Maybe it's a "control freak" thing? I don't feel like I can delegate things or if I do delegate I feel a need to micromanage.

    I think this article is great because it gives just 3 simple things to do. This holiday season I'm going to focus on saying "no" and "letting go".

  15. I completely understand! I feel like if I don't do something then it won't be done correctly. That is just something that I personally am learning to let go of as well. Good luck as you focus on those two strategies!